3. BE THE EXAMPLES YOU WANT THEM TO COPY

I stood before the kids and wanted to show them something, I had just learnt in a children training conference. The trainer had taught us that children don't care what we say, they only repeat what they see us do. 

I stood there and asked them to touch their feet, I touched mine and simultaneously they did theirs respectively, I told them to touch their head, they did at the same time with me and then I told them to touch their chin while I purposely touched my cheek but all of them touched their cheek instead and very few were confused, they wanted to touch their chin but because I didn't touched mine they felt I was confused with what i've asked them to do and so they reluctantly touched their cheek though they knew it wasn't the chin I had told them to touch.

This is exactly how children respond to parents, they don't do what they are told, they do what they see their parents or instructor doing.

It doesn't matter how eloquent you are as a parent or how much you think you can flog your children and force them to do what you commanded, once you don't do what you want your children to do, they'll never do what you are saying.

When children are confused because what you ask them to do is not consistent with what you are doing, they become rebellious 

Some parents think they can crush their rebelliousness by flogging and threatening them but they'll end up hardening their children in evil.

My uncle would always beat his son in the name of disciplining him. He doesn't show the son how to behave, he just made demands of him and flog him into it. For a while it worked until the boy became very hardened, he is no longer afraid of being flogged. Soon he'll begin attacking his father back. Things like this is not training or disciplining, its child abuse. Children are not meant to be abused in the name of training. You must inspire good behavior in your children by being their examples and giving them time to adjust to the lesson. This my uncle's son is now very wild and violent in his relationship with others and this made people to avoid him at all cost. He was physically abused in the name of training, now he doesn't know that there are non violent ways of socializing with one another. If you don't want to raise this kind of child, who won't be able to socialize because of the wild nature you've brought out in him, learn to be gentle and show him how to behave instead of flogging him and commanding him to do this or that. Show him what to do and ask him to do it with you and with them, he'll learn.

Hypocritical parents can not raise a godly child. Be the doer of whatsoever you want your child to do if not, your child would be far worse than you in doing evil and soon the evil that would destroy them won't spare you.

Their is a special place in hell for every hypocrites because hypocrisy makes things far worse than they met them. Don't be have a child if you are not ready to live as their example, you'll be destroying their destinies and the consequences of hypocritical upbringing that'll destroy them won't spare you.

Prayers:

1. Lord, I ask that you transform me into the image of your son Jesus Christ.

2. I want to be a living example for my children so that when they see me, they'll see you in me and would desire to be like you while learning from me in Jesus name.

3. I don't want to be a hypocrite to my children, I want to be all that I desire that they become: Bold, excellent, God fearing, spirit filled, studious and smart in Jesus name.