christian dating and courtship

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CHRISTIAN DATING AND COURTSHIP

Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child of the Holy Spirit. Matthew 1:18

It was the culture of the Jew to affiance a woman for a period of 10 to 12 months before marrying her. Gen. 24:55, Judges 14:8. This was the case of Mary and Joseph; during this period, the spouse studies themselves and tries to reach compatibility. If compatibility wasn’t achieved at this period, there won’t be need to continue into the next and final stage which is marriage.
Your Date is someone you go out with regularly and courtship is the act of gaining someone’s love with the view of marrying the person.
Don’t be quick to tie what you’ll never be able to untie, date and court before marriage.
To get married, you must win the love and know the behavior of the person you want to get married to and this is achieved during the period of courtship.
SIMPLE RULES OF COURTSHIP
1.      Let it neither be too long nor too short; when it is too long, it might leads to sexual immorality and if the marriage didn’t hold, it must have scared away so many other suitors that are waiting while you were courting.
2.      Let the lady never be too demanding; gifts blinds the eyes, when you collect so much from him, he might be afraid it will continue when you get married and if you latter discover something in him/her and you cant continue, you wont have the powers to say NO even when you want to. You’ll marry him by the reason of obligation and not of compatibility and love.
3.      Have someone that will monitor things for you. Let your pastor or a responsible person that you both listen to know and monitor the relationship all the way.
4.      Don’t double date; if you are with him, be with him and if you want to back out, make it plain.
5.      Pray together: when you pray together, the will of God concerning that relationship happens faster, it either brings you together quicker or puts you asunder earlier.
6.      No Sex. Even when you are so convinced that it will work, once you start having sex, you delay or even hinder him from quickening the process of marriage. When a magazine is sealed, people buy it and take home to unseal it but when it’s open, they just read it there and go: why should they pay for content they’ve read already; seal off

There are those that don’t need to date or court a woman before marrying her, these people are those that God pointed plainly to them that so so so and so is their spouse. If God didn’t point for you, He knows that with your senses you can make the right choice. Therefore date and court the person before you marry.
God bless you.

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Pastor Promise Ikpe
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